10 Life Lessons you Should Unlearn

10 Life Lessons you Should Unlearn

This article originally appeared here In the past 10 years, I’ve realized that our culture is rife with ideas that actually inhibit joy. Here are some of the things I’m most grateful to have unlearned: 1. Problems are bad. You spent your school yea...

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Scientific Tricks to Beat Stress, Anxiety, and Fear

Scientific Tricks to Beat Stress, Anxiety, and Fear

This article originally appeared here on February 16, 2016 Back in the earlier days of evolution, humans were prey to giant hyenas, cave bears, and predatory kangaroos. We’ve been able to outlast those guys, but evolutionary psychologists will tell you t...

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A Lazy Person’s Guide to Happiness

A Lazy Person’s Guide to Happiness

This article was originally published here on October 23, 2017 Happiness is an active process, not something you get by sitting back and waiting. It’s something to be grabbed by the horns or more vulnerable areas and then conquered. At least, this is the gis...

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8 Reasons Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

8 Reasons Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

This article originally appeared here on May 18, 2017 I’ve spent 10 long years telling myself I cannot afford to slow down. To have even 10 minutes of me time, I have to hustle and work and hustle some more. Do that for too long and you will find yourself in...

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How Distorted Thinking Increases Stress and Anxiety

How Distorted Thinking Increases Stress and Anxiety

This article was originally published here on September 29, 2014. I learned about cognitive distortions in the 1990s from a book by David Burns called Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. I’d just moved from the faculty wing at U.C. Davis’ law school to ser...

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How Regret Can Help You Find Your Ideal Self.

How Regret Can Help You Find Your Ideal Self.

This article was originally published here July 27, 2019. How often have you wished you could give your younger self some advice? According to a researcher at Clemson University, many people have this desire several times a week. For many, this is anything but...

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Don’t Let “Mom Guilt” Make You a Worse Parent

Don’t Let “Mom Guilt” Make You a Worse Parent

Ten Things to Remember when Coping with the contradictory reality of mom guilt. This article originally appeared here on February 22, 2019. A unifying theme of motherhood is guilt. We all feel it, react to it, and sometimes perpetuate it. No matter what choice...

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15 Ways to Feel Good

15 Ways to Feel Good

This article can be found here. With some simple strategies, you can hardwire more happiness, love and wisdom into your brain, and thus your life, according to psychologist, speaker and New York Times bestselling author Dr Rick Hanson 1 Know That You can Chang...

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7 Tips for Anyone Who Gets Depressed in the Summer

7 Tips for Anyone Who Gets Depressed in the Summer

This article was originally published here Every year, despite knowing better, I’m surprised that my depression doesn’t magically disappear in the summer. In the winter, sure, of course I’m depressed! It’s cold and dark and all too easy to ro...

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Four Life-Changing Concepts that Arianna Huffington Taught Me

Four Life-Changing Concepts that Arianna Huffington Taught Me

This article was originally published here on May 5, 2014 Along with writing for Forbes and other outlets, I’m a regular Huffington Post contributor, and have long admired Arianna Huffington for what she’s developed, launched and created in the world.&nbsp...

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