Scientific Tricks to Beat Stress, Anxiety, and Fear

Scientific Tricks to Beat Stress, Anxiety, and Fear

This article originally appeared here on February 16, 2016 Back in the earlier days of evolution, humans were prey to giant hyenas, cave bears, and predatory kangaroos. We’ve been able to outlast those guys, but evolutionary psychologists will tell you t...

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Building Your Resilience to Shame

Building Your Resilience to Shame

This article originally appeared here on July 8, 2018 Shame doesn’t only reside in trauma. In fact, everyone experiences shame, according to researcher and author Brené Brown, Ph.D. You can feel shame about anything and everything. “And, while it feels li...

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How Successful Couples Resolve Conflicts

How Successful Couples Resolve Conflicts

This article originally appeared here on December 5, 2012 Author’s Note: This post is an excerpt of the book (click on title): “Seven Keys to Long-Term Relationship Success.” It’s normal for a couple to quarrel from time to time—just part...

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A Lazy Person’s Guide to Happiness

A Lazy Person’s Guide to Happiness

This article was originally published here on October 23, 2017 Happiness is an active process, not something you get by sitting back and waiting. It’s something to be grabbed by the horns or more vulnerable areas and then conquered. At least, this is the gis...

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8 Reasons Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

8 Reasons Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

This article originally appeared here on May 18, 2017 I’ve spent 10 long years telling myself I cannot afford to slow down. To have even 10 minutes of me time, I have to hustle and work and hustle some more. Do that for too long and you will find yourself in...

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6 Simple Personal Commitments to Overcome Low Self-Esteem

6 Simple Personal Commitments to Overcome Low Self-Esteem

This article originally appeared here “Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.”  ~Iyanla Vanzant You...

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Arianna Huffington: Talk to Your Children About Your Struggles. It Allows Them to Understand Failure as a Stepping Stone to Success

Arianna Huffington: Talk to Your Children About Your Struggles. It Allows Them to Understand Failure as a Stepping Stone to Success

This article originally appeared here It hasn’t all been glamorous, public moments for media mogul Arianna Huffington. There have been plenty of messy, painful, private moments. And her daughters, Christina, 27, and Isabella, 24, have had a front row seat to...

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Self Efficacy and Why Believing in Yourself Matters

Self Efficacy and Why Believing in Yourself Matters

This article originally appeared here on July 5, 2019. When facing a challenge, do you feel like you can rise up and accomplish your goal or do you give up in defeat? Are you like the famous little train engine from the classic children’s book (“I ...

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How Distorted Thinking Increases Stress and Anxiety

How Distorted Thinking Increases Stress and Anxiety

This article was originally published here on September 29, 2014. I learned about cognitive distortions in the 1990s from a book by David Burns called Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. I’d just moved from the faculty wing at U.C. Davis’ law school to ser...

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How Regret Can Help You Find Your Ideal Self.

How Regret Can Help You Find Your Ideal Self.

This article was originally published here July 27, 2019. How often have you wished you could give your younger self some advice? According to a researcher at Clemson University, many people have this desire several times a week. For many, this is anything but...

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