I am Confident. Why do I have low Self Worth?
The difference between self-esteem and self worth
Many people assume that because they have high self confidence and self esteem, that they also, therefore, have high self worth. SheWorth believes that there is a fundamental difference between self esteem and self worth.
Self Esteem is based on Extrinsic Factors. In other words, what grades you get, what job you have, what car you drive, how attractive you are, and which friends you have are all factors outside of ourselves that help us to either feel good or bad about ourselves. Self esteem is based on feeling special, or “above average.”
That, however, does not automatically translate to high self worth.
Self Worth is an INSIDE JOB. Self worth is based on your internal sense of self and how you feel about your basic humanness, regardless on how you measure yourself based on outside factors.
The beautiful thing about self worth is that it cannot be outsourced. No matter what may be going on around us, our self worth cannot be touched. If we are dumped, we do not fall into a desperate oblivion and assume we are ugly, unlovable, and never going to meet a mate.
Rather, when our self worth is high, we recognize that the “dumping” does not define who you are as a person, but see it as circumstantial and part of the reality of life. When you have high self worth, you do not internalize these outside circumstances. You do your best, relate to yourself with self compassion, and move on.
Why cultivate high self worth? Because when you do, you are able to live in alignment with the person you desire to be. In other words, you will not tolerate unfair or disrespectful treatment in a relationship, the workplace, or as you relate to yourself.
Self Worth is an inside job. It requires self understanding, self acceptance, and self love.
The Science of Self Worth helps women to understand what their predispositions are because of personality traits and genetics and cultural indoctrination. Know your worth and the world will reflect that worthiness back to you.